The first rule of book club is…
by Sadhbh Warren - March 30th, 2012
…bring a bottle of wine, apparently. I’m not sure what the rest of the rules are – this is my first ever book club – but everyone was very clear about the wine.
Despite a lifetime of loving books and reading books and obsessing about books and occasionally fresking people about by thrusting books at them shouting, “Take this! You must read it!” (and then calling them to check if they are), I have never been to a book club. I’m not sure how this has happened; I love talking about books and I love drinking booze, and apparently book clubs exist to combine the two, but somehow I have missed out. So when a mate recently suggested¬†a book-club meet, I was eager to jump in.¬†Many of the book clubs I have seen seem to exclusively deal with fiction so I was chuffed when I spotted a non-fiction book under the possible reads, and even more chuffed when people said the non-fiction one sounded ideal. (It’s nice to know I am not alone¬†in my real-life read loving ways.)
The book we¬†chose¬†is Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, which created¬†no small amount of conversation and¬†controversary on its release in 2011.¬†This was at least partially fuelled by a¬†Wall Street Journal publishing an exerpt from the book¬†with the headline ‚ÄúWhy Chinese Mothers Are Superior‚ÄĚ which suffered, apparently,¬†from the same problem as the book did – many readers completely missed what Chua claims is irony and self-deprecating humour implicit¬†in the title and¬†believed that Chua was bombastically advocating the superiority of a very strict and¬†ethnically defined approach to parenting.
To be fair, it’s easy to see how this could happen;¬†although Chua describes her book as a self-depreciating memoir, anecdotes such as the “Little White Donkey” one, where Chua describes how she got her¬† unwilling younger daughter to learn a very difficult piano piece by threatening no¬†lunch, no dinner, no Christmas or Hanukkah presents, no birthday parties for years, and¬†the donation of her¬†dollhouse to the Salvation Army don’t exactly evoke an image of a self-depreciating but loving Mum so much as¬†¬†a harpy on the rampage. And Chua seems delighted to horrify her audience by emphasising the excesses of her approach and her opinion of other methods of raising children.
“Some might think that the American sports parent is an analog to the¬† Chinese mother. This is so wrong. Unlike your typical Western overscheduling soccer mom, the Chinese mother believes that (1)¬† schoolwork always comes first; (2) an A-minus is a bad grade; (3) your¬† children must be two years ahead of their classmates in math; (4) you¬† must never compliment your children in public; (5) if your child ever¬† disagrees with a teacher or coach, you must always take the side of the¬† teacher or coach; (6) the only activities your children should be¬† permitted to do are those in which they can eventually win a medal; and¬† (7) that medal must be gold.”
Unlike the over-achieving and occasionally terrifying Chua I have just¬†done the basics for tonight’s book¬†club meet.¬†I have read the Battle Hymn, and¬†a little extra in the form of¬†looking up a few reviews and¬†interviews with Chua (I’m not sure if you get extra points for that, or if you get accused of cheating), and asked the organiser what else is required and will happen on the night.¬†Wine drinking, apparently. Lots of it.
I’ve even ended up looking up¬†the normal conventions for book clubs, finding¬†this set of 6 rules from some bloke called Nick, who has declared himself “Official Book Club Rule Master of the Universe”. (My mental image of a book club Master of the Universe has a librarian in a He-Man style-outfit, somewhat like Conan the Librarian. I am not sure if this is what he was going for.) His rules are helpful in that they specify munchie types (chips are bad as they crunch, apparently, and accidentally picking a terrible book means you have to provide a good dessert or snack to make up for it!), unhelpful in that he suggests cleaning toilets¬†more throughly and slightly worrying in that¬†he is very clear that¬†“what happens in Book Club STAYS in Book Club”.
…which begs the question, what is going to happen in book club? Do I need to be nervous? Should I have brought a mask in case we end up out burgling book-store or will we¬†be reclining on cushions, dicussing literature, while nubile assistants peel grapes for us? Should I be expecting lively conversation or structured questions? Should¬†I bring my beret, in order to look like a more¬†serious reader? I can always dig my¬†old reading glasses¬†out – as they’re slightly the wrong prescription these days they give me a rather ferocious-looking¬†squint and can¬†be some help if I¬†go for the Conan the Librarian look.
And, hey, if that doesn’t work, at least I know my bottle of wine is good.